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The Human Family Crash Course Series {4} ~ Realtionships ~ Being Present In Relationships & Stop Zoning Out

Welcome fellow souls to « The Human Family Crash Course Series, » a new project collaborated together by empress2inspire.blog and diosraw0.wordpress.com. Together we will be working on a different topic for each crash course; our fourth topic is focused on «Relationships.» Each topic will have eight posts with posts on Mondays and Thursdays. We hope you enjoy our series and we look forward to knowing how our posts have inspired you!

Some of us frequently zone out or have our mind wander during conversations. Some space out to the point where they miss what the other person said, and they’re noticeably staring off into the distance. Others can use a section of their mind to follow the interaction and look like they’re listening, but another track in their brain is daydreaming, thinking of things they have to do later, or maybe even beating themselves up over past mistakes.. We all do this from time to time, now is the time to begin spending quality time in your relationships.

Here are some tips to help you zone-in during your interactions with friends and family:

Intend to focus on the conversation and not let your mind drift off. Your mind may waver a lot during conversations because you’re not trying to do any different. Make a conscious effort to stay focused on the people you’re talking to. If you catch yourself zoning out, switch your attention back to the interaction (without being too hard on yourself, show yourself some love).

Give yourself something foundational about the conversation to focus on. Tell yourself you’ll pay attention to the speaker’s eyes, facial expression, or tone of voice. Try different things to see if one works best for you. If you notice your thoughts have wandered, bring your attention back to your real world focal point you chose.

Set aside some time to let your mind wander before a conversation. If you’ve got a heavy mind, and know you have a social event later that day, do some deliberate zoning out beforehand. Lay down or go for a stroll and daydream as much as you want. It may clear some thoughts out of your mental queue and let you be more attentive when you see people later on.

Do what you can at the time to manage any feelings of social anxiety and insecurity. Anxiety and self-consciousness makes us want to retreat inward. One of the best things you can do for that is make a conscious effort to focus on the present moment and what’s going on outside of you. You can’t get caught up in your worries if you’re really paying attention to what the other person is saying. It can also help to take some slow, deep breaths and intentionally loosen any muscles you’ve been tensing unconsciously.

Do what you can to raise your energy, if you’re zoning out because you’re feeling mentally drained. Get up and move around, have a snack, do some breathing techniques, have a fruit smoothie. Maybe you could get up and use the bathroom, and give yourself a few minutes alone to recharge your batteries slightly.

Try not to jump to conclusions about people or what they’re going to say. Resist the temptation to think, “This co-worker always makes the same long-winded complaints about how ungrateful her kids are. I’m going to think about what I want to make for dinner until it’s over.” I’m not saying that if someone has certain conversation habits that they’ll always surprise you, but that you can’t be sure.

If you’re zoning out because you’re losing interest in the conversation, do what you can to make it more interesting. If a discussion is boring you, don’t be too quick to passively resign yourself to it and mentally check out. Maybe you can change the topic. Or if you’re listening to someone, you could inject your own opinions, so the conversation becomes more or a back and forth. If you’re having coffee with friends and everyone is losing steam, suggest getting up and going somewhere else to change the environment.

Try to put your spare mental energy into attending to other aspects of the conversation. If you can follow what everyone’s saying fairly easily, and that’s not enough to capture your full attention, try attending to things like analyzing their facial expressions or body language, or trying to figure out how what they’re talking about might make them feel. If someone is telling you about their problems, put all your effort into being the best listener you can be.

“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.” ~ Anais Nin, The Diary

~Amber {DiosRaw}

The Human Family Crash Course Series {4} ~ The Benefits Of Great Friendships & Relationships

Welcome fellow souls to « The Human Family Crash Course Series, » a new project collaborated together by empress2inspire.blog and diosraw0.wordpress.com. Together we will be working on a different topic for each crash course; our second topic is focused on «Relationships.» Each topic will have eight posts with posts on Mondays and Thursdays. We hope you enjoy our series and we look forward to knowing how our posts have inspired you!

“Friendship…is born at the moment when one man says to another “What! You too? I thought that no one but myself…” ~ C.S. Lewis

Here are some of the myriad of benefits when it comes to having healthy relationships:

Friends may extend your life. People who have strong social connections are less likely to die earlier than their potential than people who are isolated. According to a 2010 review of research, the effect of social ties on life span is twice as strong as that of exercising, and equivalent to that of quitting smoking.

Stronger immunity. Science has found a link between social support from friendship and the immune system. People with good friends tend to have stronger immune systems and anti-inflammatory responses that can lead to quicker wound healing and reduce the risk of illnesses, including cardiovascular disease, arthritis, and some cancers.

Lower stress. Researchers believe that friendship also plays a role in the way the body processes stress. When you spend time with your loved ones sharing what’s on your mind, your body may produce less of the stress hormone, cortisol, which can have a calming effect.

Increased wisdom. The quality friendships that you develop will gift you with blessings of lessons along the way which will enhance your wisdom if you listen out for them.

Self-growth. Not only does your friend grow in your connection, you do too. As time goes on, you will learn more about another’s life and this can help you develop into a beautiful person by listening to their stories, pain and experiences then learning from them.

Improved self-confidence. Supportive friends can help us feel more confident by offering praise, reassurance, and a hand to hold when we’re feeling unsure. Being there for each other in this way can help to develop a lifetime of gratifying companionship.

Increased happiness. To find joy in your life you can turn to your happy friends. Studies have shown that socializing with happy people can rub off on you. Research also says that you can amp up your happiness quotient by actively building friendships instead of waiting for them to come to you.

It teaches us to see the Creator in other people. The true test of friendship isn’t how you much you love someone when they are at their best, but how much you love them when they are at their worst. It is the purest form of loving thy neighbor as thyself. To love someone unconditionally is to love God. It is the ability to see the spark of the Creator in them. Every time we see negativity in someone else, we disconnect from the Creator, because we fail to understand that those traits are specifically designed by the Creator. When we love someone despite their faults, we connect to the Light of the Creator. Reaching this level of friendship is incredibly rare. To have even one friend that you love unconditionally is an enormous blessing.

It offers us opportunities to share. Loving someone unconditionally also means loving someone with no expectation of anything in return. We often expect things from other people – we want them to do favors for us, to give us their attention, to make us feel better about ourselves. But when we have a true friendship, we put aside our own selfish desires because of our love for them. Our spiritual work is designed to transform ourselves into more selfless, giving beings. The more we grow unconditional love for our friends through acts of sharing, the more we change ourselves into more spiritual people.

It helps us become more like the Creator. We are meant to ultimately become like the Creator, an endless source of sharing. With every step we take toward having genuine love, tolerance and human dignity for others, we align ourselves more and more with the unconditional love of the Creator. To love others unconditionally is to love them the way the Creator loves us. Think about how you can be a better friend to those around you. How can you be more giving, more selfless, and more unconditionally loving? The more we actively think about this and take steps towards building that kind of friendship, the more we transform ourselves and the world around us. This is the purpose of all our spiritual work and the reason friendship nourishes the soul.

Promotes positive behaviours. It’s common to pick up the habits of the company you surround yourself with, the beneficial effects friends and family can have on your behavior can be as simple as encouraging you to eat better and sleep more. The opposite is also true, there is a greater likelihood of becoming a smoker if your friends pick up the habit.

Let us know below what benefits human relationships gift you..

~Amber {DiosRaw}

The Human Family Crash Course Series {4} ~ Relationships ~ The Ten Golden Rules Of Letting Go

Welcome fellow souls to «The Human Family Crash Course Series,» a new project collaborated together by empress2inspire.blog and diosraw0.wordpress.com. Together we will be working on a different topic for each crash course; our second topic is focused on «Relationships.» Each topic will have eight posts with posts on Mondays and Thursdays. We hope you enjoy our series and we look forward to knowing how our posts have inspired you!

Letting go of painful memories and painful thoughts, harmful desires and unhealthy habits is the constructive path in life; it also means stop dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Letting means detachment, the removal of attachments to anything that makes you suffer or unhappy.

In his book “The Universe Has a Plan” Matt Khan describes the 10 Golden Rules of Letting Go, as a way of returning to who we are.

Here are the ten golden rules of letting go:

Golden Rule #1 – “You Have Done Nothing Wrong.”

This is about self-compassion and compassion to others. Forgiveness opens many doors. We learn through our challenges, and he adds, “Once there is nothing that can happen in life to prevent the receiving of self-compassion, or restrict the offering of forgiveness, there is no further wisdom for adversity to teach you.“

Golden Rule #2 – Those Who Blame You are Unhappy

“The people who need forgiveness the most are those people who treat you the worst, because they are the most entrenched in their egos. They are actually begging for emotional healing by lashing out at you… Your emerging light can become so potent within your being that you begin observing the innocent beauty of all as reflections of your awakening soul.”

Golden Rule #3 – Hardships Can Be Fast-tracked Through Moments Of Thankfulness.

Mantra: “Thank you for this gift. Which suggests that everything we encounter is here to move us forward. “If at this moment I had everything I ever wanted, I’d feel exactly the same as I do right now.”

Golden Rule #4 – Feeling Better Helps Everyone heal. Your Happiness Neutralizes Their Pain.

“Feeling bad for other people feeling bad doesn’t help anyone feel better. But, daring to feel good about the uniqueness and innocence of others helps those who feel bad to accelerate their healing.”

Golden Rule #5 – Wellbeing Is A Signal That You Are Ready To Embody Your Potential.

“My breath is the living presence of well-being. The more mindfully I breathe, the more alive I feel.” Don’t underestimate the power of the breath to return us to our most centered and aligned selves.

Golden Rule #6 – The Universe Always Has a Plan

You aren’t sad because you are an unhappy person. You are experiencing sadness as part of your healing journey, to create space for more light to be embodied. You will receive everything you desire at exactly the moment in time it is meant to arrive.

There is a destiny. It is guaranteed, and it also requires your participation. It may include outcomes the ego may desire, but it can only be fulfilled by the light of your soul.

Golden Rule #7 – Everything Changes, But It Only Changes For The Better

“While the ego believes pleasure can exist only beyond the threshold of pain, the soul knows degrees of pain and pleasure often exist in the same exact space… I am able to see that everything changes me for the better, whenever I am still. Breathe in the challenges, and breath out whatever doesn’t serve us.”

Golden Rule #8 – It’s Ok To Dislike

“To use the internal experience of dislike as an opportunity to love and accept the part of myself shut down by the judgment of others… Dislike is the recognition that you are acknowledging something that seems foreign to your core values.”

Golden Rule #9 – Projecting Anger Drains You Of Energy

When dealing with anger we have choices, “Say something or walk away or… deal with anger with creativity – anger is the expression of unexpressed passion. Art/creativity is the outlet for the emotional body to be channeled. The inner artist says, ‘Here are the things I saw, felt, and survived, and here’s how it made me better.’ Art is the inner narrator of your soul’s evolution.”

Golden Rule #10 – Love is Your Liberator

“Once my needs became my hole to fill, I was freed from believing others were acting from any other motivation than the nature of their journey. This produced an inherent level of respect for each and every being, no matter how differently their actions were from mine. The love I required was no longer anyone else’s problem to resolve; as a result, the notion of problem began dissolving from view. I was no longer seeing burden, conflict, pressure, or stress, but a world of innocent hearts hiding from their own love by trying to get it from another…
When love is your liberator, it is only the love that you cultivate within your own heart that sets you free from any pain created by the conduct of others.”

“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” ~ Steve Maraboli

~Amber {DiosRaw}