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Body Language {11} ~ How To Tell If Someone Is Lying

  1. Matching Words & Body Language
    In our culture, shaking one’s head up and down means yes, and side to side means no. If someone is saying, “No, I didn’t do it,” but their head is shaking yes, they probably did it, said Brown. “People subconsciously accent things with their heads all the time,” she added, and the head is more trustworthy than the mouth.
  2. Lips Don’t Lie
    Folding in one’s lips before speaking is a red flag. “When people’s lips disappear, they are holding back information,” said Brown. “The next thing that comes out of their mouth is either a half-truth or a lie.”
  3. Be Attuned to Tone
    Tone of voice is one of the best indicators of deception. A strong “convincing” tone often indicates deception, while a softer “conveying” tone can mean someone is telling a partial truth and not the whole story.
  4. Big Talkers
    People who are most effusive in their denials or other untrue statements are among the most likely to be guilty. “The ones who are working really hard at looking like the good guy are the people we have got to be wary of,” said Brown.
  5. Notice the Jitters
    “If someone becomes fidgety, that can indicate deception,” Brown noted. Our feet give us away with the instinct to flee an uncomfortable situation, and when our brains tell us we can’t do that, a little dancing in place might be the result.
  6. Look for Inconsistencies
    People have typical patterns with respect to their baseline body language and manner of speaking. If someone’s body language is unusual for that person, take note.
  7. It’s in the Eyes
    “When you see the whites of people’s eyes, that means fear,” said Brown. If someone’s eyes dart around when they’re asked a question — shifting up, down and side-to-side — they’re fearful of giving an honest answer.
  8. Yes or No Isn’t Maybe
    “I think so,” “I don’t recall” or “to the best of my knowledge” are suspect answers to any yes-or-no question.
  9. Distrust a Delay
    “If someone waits more than five seconds to answer a question, that’s a pretty good sign of deception,” said Brown.

With careful observation, we can become adept at reading the nonverbal cues of a liar. People often attempt to suppress their emotions but there is ‘leakage,’ known as micro expressions, which occur in one-fifth of a second.

Source ~ https://www.meetings-conventions.com/News/Third-Party/Body-Language-Signs-Someone-Is-Lying

The Human Family Crash Course Series {5} ~ Communication {6} ~ How To Stay Focused During Video Conferences

Welcome fellow souls to « The Human Family Crash Course Series, » a new project collaborated together by empress2inspire.blog and diosraw0.wordpress.com. Together we will be working on a different topic for each crash course; our fifth topic is focused on «Communication.» Each topic will have eight posts with posts on Mondays and Thursdays. We hope you enjoy our series and we look forward to knowing how our posts have inspired you!

Remember a time when zoom calls were new. We used to get so excited about logging on, seeing people and having these work conversations over the internet. And three months later, well, they suck. I think most of my days are taken up by video conferencing. We are still working from home and for me sometimes there are 5-6 video conferencing calls a day back to back. It’s tough so I have recently spent a lot of time figuring out how I can survive these long conference calls.

Here’s how you can stay focused on engaging through these calls. I hope these tips can be helpful for all of you:

Tip 1: Make it easy to stay focused
Tip 2: Show the other person that you are focused. This will help you stay focused.
Tip 3: Be prepared for the challenging calls.

Tip 1: Make it easy to stay focused
I have realised that focus for me is a very big issue on days when I am tired or when I have too many calls back to back. So I started thinking about why this is happening and I realised that one of the first reasons was there were too many distractions. So obviously for me the first solution was to remove all of these distractions. I put my phone out of sight so that I can’t see that. I removed the clutter from my desk. I cleaned up my digital desktop. This might come handy especially when you are sharing your screen with people, it’s nice to have your desktop clean. Have only tabs which are relevant for the meeting opened in your browser. Position the documents which you are referring to or reading from in the centre so that it seems you are looking at your camera when you are talking. Sometimes when I am talking and I need to look at my notes, I move my notes on the top centre of my screen so that it looks like I am looking at the camera while I am also looking at the notes at the same time. Even if your environment is very quiet, having your earphones on while you are working can help you focus on your work. It can specially come handy when there are more than one people working out of the same home, just a wall apart. Always have a glass of water available with you and mute yourself on calls when you are trying to drink. Also pro-tip have a lid on that glass of water unless you want to spill water on your laptop. Trust me I am speaking from experience. Avoid drinking any carbonated soda or spring water on calls because those bubbles will come back in the form of a burp on the call. If you notice your eyes are getting tired, play around with different steups and brightness on your laptop.

Tip 2: Show the other person that you are focused. This will help you stay focused.
Eye contact is everything. Look into the camera when you are talking when you are being authoritative and when you want to make a point because that looks like you are looking at the other person. Make sure that your computer is actually lifted because if you are on a laptop. You want to make sure that your eye level is where the camera is and that’s why keeping few books under your laptop may be beneficial. Put a little sticky note at the top of your laptop near your camera with a smiley face so that it kind of reminds you to look at the person when you are looking there. Oftentimes when you watch people on the camera and they don’t really realise that you are watching them, the face changes look like something focused on beyond the screen and this makes a huge difference when it comes to communication. One of the things that we usually forget is that when we are on these calls, our heads are quite close to the cameras and so people can tell when you are looking over or looking at text messages on your phone. In real life you are never that close to people so can get away with a lot more. But when you are online, it is difficult to get away with it. The message it sends is that hey, I am not focusing on you so don’t have to focus on me and hence there is a disconnect. Think of the camera as a magnet and when you do look away and you will, like you are going to look at the clock to see what time it is or you are going to look down on your notes to refer something and that’s okay, just make an effort to keep going back at thee camera and to maintain your presence in the meeting. If you think your eyes and the camera have a magnetic connection then you will keep going back to that. Sometimes telling people why you are looking away is a way of being polite and letting them know that you are still a part of the conversation.

Tip 3: Be prepared for the challenging calls
We have all been in them. We have all survived to tell the tale. Not all our calls are created equal. Some are really challenging and some are a breeze. It is the way it is because you are interacting with different people on different topics in different scenarios all those kinds of things. It may be the way the person is speaking or maybe their internet connection is consistently bad and so it’s hard to hear them, whatever that is, you know while going in who those challenging counterparts are going to be. If you can anticipate that, that will help you lower your expectations and manage your stress better. Another way is to not forget your listening skills. I have some typical tips which might help like :

  • Set an intention. This means think about why you are listening and what the outcome might be for the conversation. What is the purpose of your listening. Are you listening to learn something new or you are listening to find out someone’s instructions, whatever it is, have that in mind.
  • Use confirmation language when you are listening. That is especially important in these calls because if you are on mute all the time, then people really do not know that you are listening. So unmute yourself, ask a question, use some reflective language, confirm something that they said just to let them know that you were listening.
  • Finally if you are totally distracted and someone is going on and on and on then practice shadowing. Shadowing is when you are listening to somebody and in your head you are repeating every single word they say. It’s like forced focus, you can’t think about anything else because you are using all of your energy to repeat what they said.

So those are three tips on how to stay focused during video conferencing. These endless video conference calls have to be made easy because it seems like we will be doing them for a long while now. Also don’t forget to give yourself breaks. Stand up, walk around the house, drink some water. Also remember that the other person on the call may be going through the same thing. They may also be tired of the calls one after the other. You can help them out by being focused and engaging.

If you have any additional tips on how to stay engaged, please do share in the comments section. We always love to hear from you. If there are any questions you would like us to address, please feel free to ask us and we will try to answer them as best as possible.

~Garima {Empress2Inspire}

~Spellbound Humanity~

Many of humankind has been sleeping for a very long, long time. It is approaching time for them to awaken and your kindness and care will be important in the near future. For, these souls have been ‘spellbound’ and they have no idea that they are.

They move around in their day to day lives doing what they feel should be done in their world but they watch the television, they play with their devices, they belong to all of the apps in the App Store. ~ Unknown

~The Masters Who Walked The Earth~

The masters who walked the earth did not go round pointing fingers and judging everyone. It never happened. They led with love, compassion, and by example. Before you peg another lightworker down for any reason, return back to yourself and double-check that there is not more self-work that you should not be carrying out today. There will be. ~ Unknown

Poetry By Jeff & Amber {3} ~ Remembering The Mirrored Child Within

Free and Clear

Godly pure clay they came,

shaped then crafted

by environmental ruptures,

connected to Spirit,

adjacent to our home world,

this molded fabric weaves,

through the veil of amnesia.

Cloaked

in a brocade of vibrant colors

and images

of another place and paradigm,

as we left that ruptured
line

and connection for a time.

Mirroring parental behaviour,

in the earthly realm,

observative as they are,

education brings the moment
we see

children as innately wise
and capable beings;

only then can we play along
in their world.

Fitting into God’s plan,

to be of service to the divine.

Our invitation?

Shine a light

on all that you find within,

which came prior

to the social necessities
laid bare

before you. Reconnection
with Truth

is one of the greatest gifts

we can deliver to ourselves,
and

all the rest of the fauna

and flora we find

everywhere.

Breaking the chains of illusion

necessitate the

familiarisation with the
Atma,

residing within the chambers

of the heart.

Seeded offspring from the

universal intelligence,

when you utter, leave an
impression

on the young,

allowing them to embody

and fully love

who they have become.

To see the magical in the
all

and be the teachers of the
old by

remembering what you already
know,

which lives within, and is
free and clear.

~By Jeff {JeffFlesch} & Amber {DiosRaw}

~If you’d like to collaborate, feel free to find my email on this blog’s connect page.~

Poetry By Diana & Amber {1} ~ Horizons On Wings

Every breath is a chance to live
again,
to rise and fall.
Every sleep, a constant death
again,
to be reborn.
Clouds form, to quietly melt into nowhere but
once had transient, lucid shapes and form.
Our dreams were meant to be love songs… to last forever,
flying on immortal wings… to
crystalize into ever becoming.
So we cuddle that sweet little thing,
called hope,
and kiss those gaping oozing things,
called wounds;
So we hold hands with sunshine and allow love to push away the darkness.
So we brush off every pain with the winds and allow the answer to reveal itself.
We are but souls that shelter in the dusk,
casting shadows where our tears once fell.
But look, the sky is changing colors.
But look, the horizons are opening up.
I don’t think, there is anything more beautiful, do you?

~By Diana {TheGlitteringSoul} & Amber {DiosRaw}

~If you’d like to collaborate, feel free to find my email on this blog’s connect page.~

{Image Credit ~ endmion1 Via Instagram}

~Gyana Shakti~

In Indian and yogic philosophy, gyana shakti is one of the three parts of creative cosmic power called shakti. Gyana shakti is the power to know. The other two parts are iccha shakti (willpower) and kriya shakti (the power to act). It is the combination of these shaktis that controls the universe. For an objective to be completed, all three shaktis must be in harmony. For example, to build a house, one must have the desire to do so (iccha), the knowledge to build it (gyana) and the physical ability (kriya).

Gyana shakti is also called jnana shakti. Jnana is the Sanskrit word for “wisdom” or “spiritual knowledge.”